Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Festive Season



It’s that time of year again where Swazis take a break from their life and just go at it for the next couple months. What I’ve learned from last year is, don’t plan anything at the end of your third term. From December to the end of January, Swazis know how to let their hair down and have fun! School is out, departments are closing and best of all—it’s hot as _____.  All a person wants to do is be outside and enjoy the nice weather. It isn’t as hot as it was last year, but there have been plenty of days where you want to soak yourself in the pool all day.  There is a braai (cook out) for anything and everything. I especially love that my birthday falls right in the middle of it all.
Last week I had yet again another huge party. I was saying good-bye to 25 and moving one step closer to 30 (yikes!). Several of the PCVS came out, and all of my Swazi and South African friends made an appearance. Glasses were broken, tables were destroyed, pools were invaded, and the crowd was happy. We had some special guests, my friends who are DJs from SA came out to play, which was really exciting. By 2 am, the country club told us to go home, and since I am a broke volunteer who has no money to bribe with, I had to follow.
The following week was Ingcwala- it is a Swazi holiday whereby the country celebrates the first fruits. It’s a very big cultural event which centers on the king. In actuality, Ingcwala lasts for an entire month. The king goes into seclusion, a bull is killed by the bare hands of a young male, and there are water people who go door to door seeing if you have broken any of the traditional rules, like painting of the fingernails… gasp! Ok, maybe you need to be here to get the whole picture, but it’s pretty cool.
Before all these cultural celebrations took place, I had my school’s Christmas pageant. I wouldn’t be a good teacher if I didn’t brag about how well they did! Look at the pics below to see just how cute my kids are. 







Now finally, it is time for my vacation…… I told my mom I was going to Cape Town, but just like the good daughter I am [not]….. I didn’t tell her I am actually going home to America! As I am typing this blog, I am sitting in the Joburg airport. I have 23 hours of travel ahead of me. So in about 24 hours, I am going to be surprising her at the house. Be sure to check-out my next blog, when I post a video of her reaction!
Merry Christmas!!!!!!

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Books for Africa



Once again, I am helping with an amazing project called Books for Africa (BFA). Last year I was a recipient of receiving 1000 new books for my high school’s library. This year I hope to get another donation of books to my primary school. This will only happen if PC Swaziland raises enough funds. By doing so, 30 schools and communities across the country and thousands of kids will benefit.
The books will be free, high-quality books from United States donors, and each organization receiving the books will be responsible to raise 1,500 rand (about $150 USD – a big amount for most schools!) to help ship the books, in addition to providing a library room, shelves, labeling supplies, and a designated librarian. It is a hefty commitment on their end! However, the Peace Corps volunteers in Swaziland still need to raise $7232 (the rest to be covered by Peace Corps) to cover half of the cost of shipping the books to Swaziland. That’s where you come in – can you help raise money to support education in Swaziland?
Here is more information about the need this project addresses:
The Kingdom of Swaziland currently has the highest HIV prevalence rate worldwide at 31% (for men and women aged 18-49). Engaging the next generation is seen as an important factor for decreasing that rate. Research indicates that high HIV rates are often correlated with populations faced with poverty and low education. Attending school in itself is known to provide some protection for youth, as research indicates that in-school youth are less likely to engage in risky sexual behavior.  Allowing students access to leisure reading materials not only decreases their free time to engage in risky behaviors but also increases their English abilities.
Increased English skills will enable students to fare better in school, creating improved opportunities for the student and their family to escape poverty through employment.  English is one of two official languages in Swaziland and fluency in English as essential for attending university or obtaining a high employment position. Despite this, many students do not have access to English reading materials outside of loaned school textbooks, limiting their chances for English practice to school hours.
 Books for Swaziland will enable 30 schools and community organizations to establish libraries, touching approximately 60,000 students in the next ten years. This is nearly 6% of the total country population! Books for Swaziland will train a librarian for each school, approve a library program plan, and deliver over 1,000 quality children’s, young adult, and information books to participating organizatios. The result of this project will be an increase in literacy and English proficiency among students, as well as increased chances for students to obtain university admission or gainful employment. One library at a time, Books for Swaziland hopes to bring students out of poverty for a brighter, HIV-free future.
I am asking family members and friends to commit to donating monetarily to this project (if you’d like to send books, I can give you the shipping address for the organization in America). We will be fundraising from now until December. If you feel strongly about helping improve the quality of education and opportunity for Swaziland students, or if you just love me and want to help me out, here are a few ideas for making donating fun and easy:
  • Just go online and donate. Easy-peasy. Click here to find out about donating.
  • Ask a class at school or church to fundraise. ‘Loose Change for Literacy’ is a great theme and you can compete between classrooms or between guys and girls. The winners get bragging rights, and if you are feeling generous, a party.
  • Make donating to this project your end-of-year, tax deductable donation.
  • Host a small event with friends and ask everyone to chip in. Maybe you bake homemade lasagna or make dozens of pancakes and charge $15 a plate, or maybe you throw a Vegas-themed party where all winnings go to libraries.
  • With the holidays coming up, combine fun and fundraising. Try hosting a holiday baked goods competition at work where buy-in is $20 and the reward is eternal glory, or ask your boss to make Books for Swaziland your company’s charitable beneficiary for this year.
As always, thank you for your encouragement and support of our work in Swaziland. I have seen the difference a book can make in the life of a child here, and I want to make that possible for 30 new schools this year. Thank you for helping make that happen!

Friday, November 22, 2013

25 Tips for PCVs

Got this in an email from an RPCV from Swaziland Kathy Gau - thought it was worth mentioning.


25 Tips for Peace Corps Volunteers

1) If you want to change the world, change yourself. You cannot effectively
contribute toward growth unless you are growing yourself. If you want to grow, drop
your ego. Learn to identify when your ego is in play and develop strategies to quell
it. Empowerment is the capacity to bear power responsibly. You cannot empower
another person. But you can empower yourself.
2) Use this experience to learn about yourself. This is the most important lesson. Try
to remember it.
3) Development is disruptive.
a) It implies changes in power relationships that result in uncertainty and lose. Few
people willingly give up power unless they can see there will be gain.
b) Most poor people cannot afford to change radically. It takes a huge amount of
energy (physical and emotional) for average rural folk to maintain daily life, let
alone try to break out of the poverty cycle.
4) Do not expect a smooth ride. Do not expect people to fall over their feet to listen to
you. Do not expect people to go out of their way to listen to you. Do not expect.
People had a life before you came. They will continue to have a life after you leave.
You are probably not a messiah. If you are, forgive me. If not, your two years is a
furrow in their field in a single agricultural year. Most of their years your furrow is
not there.
5) Appreciate the fact that you are one of many who will advocate change and then
leave. Why should people trust you before you have demonstrated results?
6) You will not see tangible, measurable results in 2 years anywhere close to what
you hope or expect. The saying that "what takes a day in USA takes a week in
Africa, what takes a week in USA takes a month in Africa, what takes a month in
USA takes 1 year in Africa" is close to true for reasons that you have no control over.
So after your first month on the job, when you are still in USA mode, write down
what you would like to achieve in 2 months time. This now becomes your 2 year
work goal. NOTE: You can achieve more than this if you move into "take charge
mode" but not through a capacity building approach. Also, in 2 years, you will
probably not move out of USA mode.
7) Don't want it more then they want it (or, don't show how bad you want it to work).
Find other ways to deal with your personal and professional frustrations regarding the
work ethic, the what could/should/can be in the face of serious problems. You are
but one step in a very long journey to address these problems. Concentrate on doing
your step well and having fun.
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8) There is no "us and them". Human beings are the same everywhere. Could you do
it if it were you in their shoes? Don’t think for a moment that because you live in a
hut and don’t make much money that you are in their shoes. In your life in the USA,
how much of your achievements to date really reflect on you? Or did you just make
good use of the opportunities provided you? For certain you did not need to build the
systems, government and schools associated with creating these opportunities.
Perhaps your great grandparents did, but not you.
9) It doesn’t matter how right you think you are, if you haven’t developed a working
relationship with someone, if you don’t approach your suggestion with the most
sincere humility, you will not convey your message effectively. Think: do you want
to be right or effective?
10) Learn how to yield effectively to win. Their life is not about your principles.
Neither is mine or anybody else’s. Try to understand why people do what they do
and then don’t judge. Work the problem with them, and your emotions with you.
11) What you experience is a sliver of time and space. Be careful not to generalize
beyond this.
12) Pay attention to the way you feel when you spend time judging. If it feels bad, if
you feel worse, then don’t do it. It isn’t pretty to watch people sit around doing the
“these people syndrome”. If you find yourself doing it, it’s a sure sign that you have
something to work out within yourself. Find it and work it out.
13) Do not think for a minute that your attitude towards people is unfelt. Everyone feels
when they are being put down. Make people feel that they have grown in your
presence.
14) Do not be the money volunteer. Personal interactions should be linked to building
genuine relationships, encouraging positive self-esteem and confidence.
15) Build open, sincere dialogue. Be sincere.
16) The basic logic associated with problem solving and analysis is weak. You may
need to catch people up on foundation skills, including sorting, sequencing, matching,
opposites, etc. In your personal time, this can be done in a fun way through puzzles,
chess, card games, etc. Just don't show people that this is a learning exercise or it
will come across as patronizing. The added benefit is that they may start to play these
same games with their children. You have no idea how much difference this can
make.
17) Over a 2 year period, your task is really teaching. Teaching is all about 1) finding
people's starting point and thereafter, 2) experimenting with teaching methods that
will walk people through the steps of awareness and skills development through
applied knowledge. It might take 3 steps or it might take 21 steps. There is nothing
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right or wrong about the number of steps so do not judge as this is the same as saying
"I have no hope that you can learn".
18) Introduce people to the process of problem solving and constantly
refer back to the process. Define the problem and its root causes (problemobjective
trees), turn the problem into SMART objectives, develop activities to reach
the objectives, break the activities into tasks, monitor, and adjust. Action –
Reflection – Action.
19) Understand that your frustration is about you. It is about a diminishing sense of
self-importance. Where else do your expectations regarding tangible achievements
within your own timeframe come from? As a teacher you may not be using
appropriate teaching methods. No one gets it right the first time or the second time.
Good teachers are forever experimenting with new methods and trying to match
proven methods with new students and situations. Everyone is more than capable of
being a good teacher, provided they are prepared to adjust to the student. You need to
constantly go back to the drawing board and revisit your starting point and your
methods until learning takes place (at times learning needs additional intervention
i.e.) to address emotional issues etc... but you will only know this if you first go
through the process of elimination phase).
20) Do not give up and do not give in. Unfortunately, the process of development can
not be shortened. Respect that those you work with drew the short straw, appreciate
that you did not. After you die, you can ask God about all this. For now, your
anguish, guilt and questions about this will just distract from the task at hand and are
really rather self indulging, if you think about it.
21) Keep a lot of irons in the fire i.e.) the secret of patience is to do something else in
the meantime.
22) Be a positive role model in your personal life, someone that young folk can aspire
to become like. Healthy living and all that, including "walking your talk" regarding
your sexual relationships.
23) Peace Corps is first and foremost a cultural exchange program. You will learn
more than you will give. Be prepared to change your understandings. You can only
balance the formula if you change both sides of the equation. This may not seem like
much but refer back to step 1. It may impact a co-worker a lot.
24) It takes five years to be a player at management level.
25) If you follow any of the above, you will be out of step with most of the
development world and timeframes. But at least you will grow and have fun.
It goes without saying that I did not do a single one of these things satisfactorily
during my original two-year time period - but I wish I had.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

My Girls



So this should just go on record. My girls’ rock! I am really impressed by how much they’ve come around this year. This past month we did a fund raiser for our Girls Empowerment Club and we raised a total of E350! We did two fundraisers. The first was “Civvies Day”—students paid E1 to wear their regular clothes every Wednesday. My girls were in charge of checking every student at assembly and collecting money.



The second fundraiser was School Superlatives. Students paid .50 cent for a voter ballot; there they nominated a boy and a girl for each 18 categories—categories included best eyes, smartest student, the naughtiest, and most likely to be famous. We made over E150 that round! Then after my girls selected the top three people for each category the students voted again, but this ballot cost E1. Again we made over E150 in this round. The students had so much fun doing this small activity; it was a nice break for them since this is their examination period. 


The money we raised will go for an end of the school year bash Dec 2 which will also celebrate World Aids Day. We hope to raise even more money during this event so we can have a retreat with the girls next year. I am especially proud of the girls because they have been doing this all on their own. They came to me with all these ideas. They even spent two full weekends in a row counting the ballots, and now they are anxious to be throwing this bash! I am glad I have their help and support behind this as I am going to be busy with several other big events coming up.

Upcoming Events
                _ Girls Empowerment Stakeholders Meeting- Nov. 26
                _ Dolphin Day (Swim Club Fundraiser)- Nov. 30
                _School Bash- Dec. 2
                _World Aids Day and Wellness Campaign- Dec.3
                _Christmas Concert- Dec. 3
                _Dance Camp Dec. 9-11
                _Birthday Weekend Celebrations Dec. 13-15
                _VACATION! Dec 20-Jan


Monday, October 21, 2013

Kids are Brutal


International Day of the Girl Child take 2. A year ago I had my first real event. It was more challenging than I expected. This year I thought things would be better; in a way it was, but what I found out was that kids are mean! My girls spent a month preparing for the event working on different songs, dramas, poems, dances, and speeches- all of which were original.  My girls did a great job showing off their creativity in practice, and I believed it would be a great show; however, standing in front of 300 students, it was not the case. The drama teamed performed and a poem was recited, the school was noisy, but responsive. Next was another poem to be recited by a form 1 girl; she was nervous as should be. Sadly, the whole student body saw that and started laughing. I went up to stand by her to give her some confidence, but the students just laughed even more! The poor girl started crying—and apparently from what I was told, people were making fun of her the rest of the day. My heart went out to her; it’ll be a long time before she ever gets back up there again. If that wasn’t bad enough, the next act to follow was by a group of form 4 girls who were to sing a song. About mid-way through, one of the girls hit a note that was a little off, and the WHOLE school started laughing at them. My girls couldn’t recover, and walked off the stage with their heads low. This day was supposed to be about empowering girls, yet it was quite the opposite. As I reflected on this event, I came to the same conclusion as I did a year ago…. Today just showed how much of a need there really is for girl’s empowerment and how much all of these kids need to feel confidence. To be honest, a lot of my days, I just want to sit back and cry. There is SO much work to be done here that can’t be fixed with simple events or workshops. It takes real effort and patience to make change happen and I’ll be lucky if I ever see it within my 2 years here.


Here is a speech that was made by one of my girls in Form 2:
                SWAGAA (Swaziland Action Group Against Abuse) was initiated by a group of women who were particularly concerned about the problem of abuse in Swaziland. The program was launched on October 12, 1990. The need for SWAGAA to introduce a program focused on girl children became evident in October 2007 when a national survey on violence against children and young women in Swaziland was conducted by UNICEF in partnership with SWAGAA and other local NGOs. The study indicated that approximately 1 and 3 females in Swaziland experienced some form of sexual violence as a child, nearly 1 and 4 women experienced physical violence as a child, and approximately 3 and 10 females experienced emotional abuse as a child.
                The formal existence of the Girl’s Empowerment Club in Swaziland began in February 2008. Through the facilitation of an open forum, a supportive network and accessible resources, the club gives the forgotten girl child a place to express her opinions on sensitive issues such as rape, forced marriage, and HIV/AIDS, as well as to communicate hopes and aspirations. The club is a place for the girl child to feel free, safe, and strong. It is a space that she owns and where she will find the guidance of mentors, role models, friends, and counselors.
                The most important person in the program is the Girl Child as a unique and special individual. As a club we respect the needs, values, rights, and opinions of each empowered girl on her journey to becoming an empowered woman. Remember- the girl child does not stay a girl child forever, so don’t underestimate her. Girls, You Are Special!!

And here are just some facts about WHY Day of the Girl Child is so important:
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  •    Rape and domestic violence are a higher risk for females aged 15 to 44 than cancer, traffic accidents or malaria.
  • According to the first survey of its kind released in 2007, one in every three female Swazis has experienced some form of sexual violence before turning 18. The figure rises to two out of three in the 18 to 24 age range.
  • Before a new constitution was adopted in 2006, Swazi women had the legal status of minors, and were unable to own property or open a bank account without the permission of a male relative or husband.
  •  Social, economic and cultural practices create, enforce and perpetuate legalized gender inequalities and discrimination in all aspects of women’s lives.
  • Deeply entrenched gender inequities compound the HIV and AIDS pandemic in Swaziland. Women continue to be disproportionately vulnerable to HIV/AIDS. Some blame worsening economic and humanitarian conditions in the country, along with the belief by some HIV-positive men that sleeping with a virgin girl can prevent AIDS, for the rise in violence against women and children. 
  • In Swaziland, out of a total population of 1.1 million 186,000 people (estimate UNAIDS) are living with HIV or AIDS. Thirty-three per cent of the population is infected and 57 per cent of them are women.
  • The cultural practice of polygamy, where one man takes several wives, has been identified by local HIV and AIDS activists as a significant source of transmission.
  • Worldwide, girls constitute over half of the children out of school. Only 30 percent of all girls are enrolled in secondary school. In many countries, less than one third of university students are women.
  • The average sub-Saharan African girl from a low-income, rural household gets less than two years of schooling and never learns to read and write, to add and subtract, as opposed to the average sub-Saharan African boy who fully completes primary education.